Since our social media focus this month is "Anger & How to Manage It", we will be reviewing Dr. Les Carter's "The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life". This book review was written by one of our counselors, Dwight Wilson. Dwight works out of our Sheffield, Hartselle, & Athens locations, and we are blessed to have him as part of our Pathways counseling staff. If you would like to find out more about Dwight, click here.
It is easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, also. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don’t seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond—choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health?
The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose, or help someone else to choose a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness, and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life.
The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and it is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.
What do I find most helpful about this book?
This book has given me a new understanding of anger, its origin, and how it is a construct of one’s past. It enables me to have more compassion with clients who are dealing with appears to be uncontrollable anger. It has revealed the need for patience with others, as well as, their need for encouragement that this is not an insurmountable obstacle that cannot be overcome.
What do clients find most helpful about this book?
Clients discover for the first time that they can overcome the fear, pain, insecurity, control of others, and find freedom from this curse that has been seemingly a monster that has hovered over them all of their life. They are able to find release from an ever-present emotion that keeps them from becoming the person they aspire to be. They are finally able to give up the thing that destroys most normal relationships with friends, family, and coworkers. The find that they can become comfortable with self and others without the continuous shadow stalking them.
“Holding onto anger and bitterness makes as much sense as you drinking poison, hoping it will kill the other person.”
“Anger can be defined as the emotion of self-preservation.”
“Angry people are hurting, fragile people.”
“Though the anger may seemingly be a reaction to someone’s current lack of cooperation, it is also a response that can be traced to pain and rejection in key relationships from years gone by.”
“Those who are caught in the anger trap have not learned to approach anger constructively.”
If you are interested in purchasing this book, click here.