Q: I am a new father and want to know what my son will need to hear from me in the coming years.
A: Whether you have a son, daughter, niece, nephew, or other children in your
life the way you relate with them will shape them for years to come. Certainly we are all called to care for children in our churches. Dr. John Trent has taken the blessing that Isaac gave to Jacob in Genesis 27 and broken it into five categories*:
1. Appropriate and meaningful touch.
2. A spoken message. Many families believe that showing love to one another is enough. However, it is important to communicate and verbalize your love and hopes to your children.
3. Adults should attach a high value to the child’s life and communicate the child’s worth in God’s eyes and also in the eyes of the parent/relative.
4. Adults should communicate the fact that the child has a special future. (Jer. 29:11)
5. Adults in the child’s life should maintain a genuine commitment to the child. The relationship should be consistent whether it is daily contact, conversations over the phone, or visits with loved ones. Family members can be creative in how they demonstrate their commitment and unconditional love to their child/teen.
Children have many needs. Certainly their physical needs are a vital part of what caregivers spend their time meeting on a daily basis. In addition, there are many emotional and spiritual needs that children have. Read Genesis 27 when you have a moment to remind yourself of the call on your life to speak these truths into the lives of children.*Information taken from Dr. John Trent’s “The Blessing”.
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